3 months

Almost. Almost 3 months since I got back at work. So far, so good. I missed work. Yeah. I have had my time of being a stay at home wife and mom and I also enjoyed those days. But I like working too (read: $$$).

Anyway, I guess I got the vibes again. Navigated my way back. Remembered long forgotten passwords and scripts and rules (why is that again? what's this for? ooohhhhhh...).

In these months that I was back, I got sick. The baby got sick (for the first time!). Struggle. But not that much, really. Good thing J is at home. And so are Lolo and Lola. Times living with in-laws is something to be grateful for.

Hiatus

I know. I have been gone again. Well, as you may have guessed, I have popped! The baby couldn't have timed it a little better. I have filed for Mat Leave effective Nov 3. And he decided he wanted to see the world on that day, 10 days earlier than our due date. But at least he let us do our trick or treating.

So how am i doing, you might ask. The past 2 months have been blissful -- not. Heheh i am not one to sugar coat it, but my first born is already 7 years old, i have already forgotten how it feels like to have a newborn, the struggles of the 4th trimester. So yeah, sleepless nights, spits, crying (baby and mom?) and all, I'm getting familiar with them again. Am i complaining? Yeah. But.... But, looking at my wee one erases all of those mentioned above. If you're a mom, you know it's true.  I may have begrudgingly wake up in the middle of the night for feeding and nappy change but will be cooing happily with him afterwards. The crazy world of having a baby.

Bye for now but i will try to do a post every once in a while. I will also do a separate post to properly announce the wee one. 

Oh, by the way, Happy New Year! I hope you had a great time celebrating the season. May we all be safe, healthy, happy and loved this 2015. Kanpai!

life happened

No, I am not abandoning this blog again. Hehehe I'm still here, it's just that life happens and I can not post it right away.

I will post the details in the coming days, just letting you know that we went to a corn maze and I had a surprise baby shower. How cool is that! I have never had a surprise anything before. So, that's new :)

That's all for now, Happy Hump Day!

old dog, new tricks

So as promised, to revive this blog, here's a summary of one of the drafts that i deemed good enough to share. Some new things about me .... Although of course, the newest would be I will be a mother again, but you already know that :)

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I have learned to be in the front line, Customer Service at its purest form! :) I have been a Sales Associate for 2.5 years. Let's just say that anything that a girl at SM can do, I can do it too.

I am now a proud, legit driver. That makes me feel kind of grown up, don't you think? I don't have to ask J to drive me if I wanted to go somewhere else. I have done whole winter season driving. No accidents, thank, God. Just got caught beating the red light.

I have enrolled in a gym, for 3 months (I know, I know, really not that committed), and went for about 5 times. Fail. I have long accepted that I am not an exercise type of person. Let's not lose hope. Maybe gym is not for me. I can try jogging again. Or swimming.

I have wanted to try Yoga for the longest time. I know, so late, the train has left decades ago. I signed  up and attended to Fall and Winter classes. Don't ask what kind of Yoga. I am just a poser. And breather. Namaste.

Owned a sewing machine and have actually sewn a thing. Or two. I am also doing alterations, of my own clothes. I am not that confident enough to do somebody else's, afraid that I will ruin their clothes.

Set up my own website. Yeah. Website is up for about 3 years but hardly any updates. Let's just leave it at that.

hello

uy andito pa ako!

why did i stop blogging? hahah wala lang...di na kasi uso. pero looking back at my old posts and the drafts, masarap ding basahin. reminds me of how i was ....

anyways, here's me hoping to revive this again. see ya.

i'll check if there are draft posts that can be publicly shared. mostly kasi hinde ;)

kakapanibago

haha i was reading my previous post. ahahhaa kakapanibago. walang sense. hahaha walang direction, parang ako.

ano ba to, tweet?

yeah i know

this is one neglected blog. yun lang.
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i am spamming

after deliberately posting nothing, i am back into blogging. yes. i don't care if the posts will be too senti or full of rants. i want all of it to be here. i want something to make me remember when all of these has past.

so, just hang around.
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i know...

of course, i know it. i am not posting as often as i used to. it's not that there is nothing to post. it's just that i dont want to post it yet. if i'd post it, this blog will be full of rants... and negativity.

i just want to attract positive vibes. so please bear with me, please, dearest blog.
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photo backlogs

i have the time now so i'll be uploading photos that should be uploaded months ago. i'm still on the month of january. after this, i'll be posting aquim's pics and pics that he has taken.

don't be shocked if you'll be seeing january birthdays heheheh ... it's not time warp, i'm just catching up.
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EDIT: this is hard. looking at these photos makes want to come back to the cainta. looking at all these places... familiar faces staring at me .. wahhhh.... homesick galore...
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how hot?

okay, just to emphasize and to have a point of comparison (though i know we can not really fully comprehend how hot the sun is, i sometimes wish i am superman so that i can see the sun closely and feel its heat without really killing me, but rather, nourish me wholly, just like superman nga.. er.. where was i?) -- how hot 50,000 degrees celsius is -- just an emission from the sun.

Typical temperatures of fires and flames

oxyhydrogen flame: 2000 °C or above (3645 °F)
bunsen burner flame: 1,300 to 1,600 °C (2,372 to 2,912 °F) (flame from the burner being used during our lab class?)
blowtorch flame: 1,300 °C (2,370 °F)
candle flame: 1,000 °C (1,830 °F)
smoldering cigarette:

Temperature without drawing: side of the lit portion; 400 °C (752 °F); middle of the lit portion: 585 °C (1,085 °F)
Temperature during drawing: middle of the lit portion: 700 °C (1,292 °F)
Always hotter in the middle.

The temperature of flames with carbon particles emitting light can be assessed by their color:

Red
Just visible: 525 °C (977 °F)
Dull: 700 °C (1,292 °F)
Cherry, dull: 800 °C (1,470 °F)
Cherry, full: 900 °C (1,650 °F)
Cherry, clear: 1,000 °C (1,830 °F)

Orange
Deep: 1,100 °C (2,010 °F)
Clear: 1,200 °C (2,190 °F)

White
Whitish: 1,300 °C (2,370 °F)
Bright: 1,400 °C (2,550 °F)
Dazzling: 1,500 °C (2,730 °F)
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pink shirt day

http://www.pinkshirtday.ca/

this may be a little bit late, nonetheless, i'd still like to post this.

Pink Shirt Day started in a Nova Scotia high school, where a 9th grade boy was being bullied over wearing a pink polo shirt to school. A couple of grade 12 boys decided to take a stand against the bullying and wear pink in sympathy for the boy who had been so mercilessly prodded at. They went to a local discount store and bought 50 pink shirts, and distributed them amongst the other boys in their high school. They stood up for their fellow classmate and against the bullies, and made a real difference in someone's life. ~~ http://www.flickr.com/photos/nimil/4516218810/

David Shepherd, Travis Price and their teenage friends organized a high-school protest to wear pink in sympathy with a Grade 9 boy who was being bullied…[They] took a stand against bullying when they protested against the harassment of a new Grade 9 student by distributing pink T-shirts to all the boys in their school. ~~ http://www.pinkshirtday.ca/

bullying: in cyberworld

http://www.flickr.com/photos/7691940@N06/456786390/

Cyber-bullying

Cyber-bullying is the use of information and communication technologies to support deliberate, repeated, and hostile behaviour by an individual or group, that is intended to harm others; that is when the Internet, cell phones or other devices are used to send or post text or images intended to hurt or embarrass another person.

Cyber-bullying can be as simple as continuing to send e-mail to someone who has said they want no further contact with the sender, but it may also include threats, sexual remarks, pejorative labels (i.e., hate speech), ganging up on victims by making them the subject of ridicule in forums, and posting false statements as fact aimed at humiliation.

Unlike physical bullying, electronic bullies can remain virtually anonymous using temporary email accounts, pseudonyms in chat rooms, instant messaging programs, cell-phone text messaging, and other Internet venues to mask their identity; this perhaps frees them from normative and social constraints on their behavior.

Furthermore, cyber-bullies might be emboldened when using electronic means to carry out their antagonistic agenda because it takes less energy and courage to express hurtful comments using a keypad or a keyboard than with one’s voice.

Cyberstalkers use posts, forums, journals and other online means to present a victim in a false and unflattering light. The question of liability for harassment and character assassination is particularly salient to legislative protection since the original authors of the offending material are, more often than not, not only anonymous, but untraceable.

useful link: http://www.stopcyberbullying.org/
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bullying: at workplace

http://www.flickr.com/photos/nimil/4476645306/

Workplace bullying

It is the tendency of individuals or groups to use persistent aggressive or unreasonable behaviour against a co-worker or subordinate.

Workplace bullying can include such tactics as verbal, nonverbal, psychological, physical abuse and humiliation.

Workplace bullies often operate within the established rules and policies of their organization and their society.

Forms of Workplace Bullying

1. Serial bullying — the source of all dysfunction can be traced to one individual, who picks on one employee after another and destroys them, then moves on. Probably the most common type of bullying.

2. Secondary bullying — the pressure of having to deal with a serial bully causes the general behaviour to decline and sink to the lowest level.

3. Pair bullying — this takes place with two people, one active and verbal, the other often watching and listening.

4. Gang bullying or group bullying — is a serial bully with colleagues. Gangs can occur anywhere, but flourish in corporate bullying climates. It is often called mobbing and usually involves scapegoating and victimisation.

5. Vicarious bullying — two parties are encouraged to fight. This is the typical "Triangulation" where the aggression gets passed around.

6. Regulation bullying — where a serial bully forces their target to comply with rules, regulations, procedures or laws regardless of their appropriateness, applicability or necessity.

7. Residual bullying — after the serial bully has left or been fired, the behavior continues. It can go on for years.

8. Legal bullying — the bringing of a vexatious legal action to control and punish a person. It is one of the nastiest forms of bullying.

9. Pressure bullying or unwitting bullying — having to work to unrealistic time scales and/or inadequate resources.

10. Corporate bullying — where an employer abuses an employee with impunity, knowing the law is weak and the job market is soft.

11. Organizational bullying — a combination of pressure bullying and corporate bullying. Occurs when an organization struggles to adapt to changing markets, reduced income, cuts in budgets, imposed expectations and other extreme pressures.

12. Institutional bullying — entrenched and is accepted as part of the culture.

13. Client bullying — an employee is bullied by those they serve, for instance subway attendants or public servants.


Examples of workplace bullying tactics

1. Making someone and/or other people feel unwelcome and not letting them join in e.g. being in a clique and cliquey behaviors and being snobby and/or elitist. Another hurtful form of unwelcomeness is vilification.

2. Unkind remarks about someone's family, lifestyle, body, appearance, shape, weight, clothes and their personal life.

3. Invasion of privacy e.g. tampering with someone's personal effects, asking someone intrusive personal questions, e.g. about their love-life.

4. Being refused annual leave, sick leave and especially compassionate/bereavement leave without a genuine and a fair reason why.

5. Being subjected and called to disciplinary hearings/meetings without absolute proof and when they are suddenly out of the blue and especially WITHOUT moral support e.g. a Union rep/parent/friend/trusted colleague/other trusted person with you.

6. Discrimination and/or unfair treatment to someone because of disability/medical condition/age/race/ethnicity/how they live and sensitive issues about someone e.g. HIV positive and sexual orientation e.g. gay/lesbian etc.

7. Spreading stories and/or lies about someone and/or his/her friends/family.

8. Deliberately withholding/giving out false information to make a competent worker look unprofessional and in order to make him/her fail.

9. Playing practical jokes on someone/telling jokes to someone which they do not like and if it makes them uncomfortable and when they and others are NOT laughing and they DO NOT find it funny (especially those based on sex, body and race).

10. Sexual harassment of any kind e.g. persistently asking out for dates/romances, touching/staring at someone's body, forcing/coercing to have sex,(especially private areas), displaying explicit/pornographic pictures, cartoons, DVDs, videos, saying sexual comments and any unwanted touches (that the person isn't comfortable with) e.g. brushing against, hugging, kissing, patting, catcalls, wolf-whistling etc.

11. Beware of terms of endearment as not everyone likes them e.g. even terms like Dear, sweetheart, chick, babe, honey, hun, baby, babycakes, lovey, etc. CAN be offensive/uncomfortable to some people.

12. Harassment/stalking e.g. following the person around, always hanging around outside his/her home and/or workplace, favourite haunts like their local pub, shops etc.

13. Persistently emailing, phoning up, text messaging, writing typed/handwritten letters, Instant messaging, Facebooking, and looking at someone's personal and confidential information/giving out personal and confidential information without consent.


useful link: http://www.workplacebullying.org/
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bullying: in school

http://www.flickr.com/photos/anttyblog/4038267899/

School bullying

Bullying in school sometimes consists of a group of students taking advantage of or isolating one student in particular and gaining the loyalty of bystanders who want to avoid becoming the next victim.

These bullies taunt and tease their target before physically bullying the target. Targets of bullying in school are often pupils who are considered strange or different by their peers to begin with, making the situation harder for them to deal with.

Bullying in school and the workplace is also referred to as peer abuse.It is even a common push factor in migration.

useful links:
http://www.projectrockit.com.au/
http://www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov/
http://www.teachersandfamilies.com/index.html
http://www.theritejourney.com.au/
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bullying: categories and types

http://www.flickr.com/photos/jaceyf/4239673154/

two categories

Direct bullying, and indirect bullying which is also known as social aggression.

Direct bullying involves a great deal of physical aggression such as shoving and poking, throwing things, slapping, choking, punching and kicking, beating, stabbing, pulling hair, scratching, biting, scraping and pinching.

Social aggression or indirect bullying is characterized by threatening the victim into social isolation. This isolation is achieved through a wide variety of techniques, including spreading gossip, refusing to socialize with the victim, bullying other people who wish to socialize with the victim, and criticizing the victim's manner of dress and other socially-significant markers (including the victim's race, religion, disability, etc).

Other forms of indirect bullying which are more subtle and more likely to be verbal, such as name calling, the silent treatment, arguing others into submission, manipulation, gossip/false gossip, lies, rumors/false rumors, staring, giggling, laughing at the victim, saying certain words that trigger a reaction from a past event, and mocking.

types of bullying

1. School bullying

2. Workplace bullying

3. Cyber bullying

4. Political bullying

5. Military bullying

6. Hazing

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bullying: all about the bullies

http://www.flickr.com/photos/justinaerni/2802857314/

all about bullies

Bullies may behave this way to be perceived as popular or tough or to get attention. They may bully out of jealousy or be acting out because they themselves are bullied.

Research indicates that adults who bully have personalities that are authoritatian, combined with a strong need to control or dominate. It has also been suggested that a prejudicial view of subordinates can be particular a risk factor.

Further studies have shown that envy and resentment may be motives for bullying. While some bullies are arrogant and narcissistic, others can use bullying as a tool to conceal shame or anxiety or to boost self esteem: by demeaning others, the abuser him/herself feels empowered.

Researchers have identified other risk factors such as depression and personality disorders, as well as quickness to anger and use of force, addiction to aggressive behaviors, mistaking other's actions as hostile, concern with preserving self image and engaging in obsessive or rigid actions.

Bullies are deeply prejudiced but at the same time sufficiently devious to not reveal their prejudices to the extent that they contravene laws on harassment and discrimination. It is often suggested that bullying behavior has its origin in childhood.

Bullies react aggressively in response to provocation or perceived insults or slights. It is unclear whether their acts of bullying give them pleasure or are just the most effective way they have learned to get what they want from others.

Similar to manipulators, however, psychopathic bullies do not feel remorse, guilt, or empathy. They lack insight into their own behaviour, and seem unwilling or unable to moderate it.

Bullies have deep seated psychological problems, including feelings of inferiority or inadequacy and difficulty in relating to others. Some may simply have learned at an early stage that their size, strength, or verbal talent was the only effective tool they had for social behaviour.

But the psychopathic bully is what he is: a callous, vindictive, controlling individual with little or no empathy or concern for the rights and feelings of the victim, no matter what the context.
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bullying: definition

from http://www.johnnygoodtimes.com

here's something that i would not want aquim to experience. especially now that we are going to start another chapter of our lives.

all from wikipedia.

define bullying
Bullying is a form of abuse. It comprises repeated acts over time that involves a real or perceived imbalance of power with the more powerful individual or group abusing those who are less powerful. The power imbalance may be social power and/or physical power. The victim of bullying is sometimes referred to as a target.

Bullying is an act of repeated aggressive behavior in order to intentionally hurt another person, physically or mentally. Bullying is characterized by an individual behaving in a certain way to gain power over another person.

Bullying consists of three basic types of abuse - emotional, verbal and physical. It typically involves subtle methods of coercion such as psychological manipulation.

Psychological manipulation is a type of social influence that aims to change the perception or behavior of others through underhanded, deceptive, or even abusive tactics.

Bullying behavior may include name calling, verbal or written abuse, exclusion from activities, exclusion from social situations, physical abuse, or coercion.
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eenie meenie minimo..?

http://www.davidandgoliathtees.com/

childish - immature or foolish or silly (from ms word thesaurus)

unreasonable - difficult to deal with, irrational, out of proportion (from ms word thesaurus)

rude - impolite, offensive, bad-mannered (from ms word thesaurus)

rudeness (also called impudence or effrontery or unethical) is the disrespect and failure to behave within the context of a society or a group of people's social laws or etiquette. these laws have already unspokenly been established as the essential boundaries of normally accepted behavior. to be unable or unwilling to align one's behavior with these laws known to the general population of what is socially acceptable is to be rude. one example of which is: bullying (from wikipedia).

bullying is a form of abuse. it comprises repeated acts over time that involves a real or perceived imbalance of power with the more powerful individual or group abusing those who are less powerful. the power imbalance may be social power and/or physical power. the victim of bullying is sometimes referred to as a target (from wikipedia).

is there something wrong ... ?
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hey, statement tees from david and goliath are cool. i've a couple of those, from the earlier batch, hinde na yata kasiya wahahahah. check out their website or visit local stores here, in greenbelth and rustans.
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serenity prayer

by reinhold niebuhr

God grant me

the serenity

to accept the things i cannot change,

the courage

to change the things i can

and the wisdom

to know the difference.

amen to that.
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